Finding peace…

“In the Lakota/Sioux tradition, a person who is grieving is considered most wakan, most holy. There’s a sense that when someone is struck by the sudden lightning of loss, he or she stands on the threshold of the spirit world. The prayers of those who grieve are considered especially strong, and it is proper to ask them for their help.
You might recall what it’s like to be with someone who has grieved deeply. The person has no layer of protection, nothing left to defend. The mystery is looking out through that person’s eyes. For the time being, he or she has accepted the reality of loss and has stopped clinging to the past, or grasping at the future. In the groundless openness of sorrow, there is a wholeness of presence and a deep natural wisdom.”
― Tara Brach, True Refuge: Finding Peace and Freedom in Your Own Awakened Heart

wakan

On holy grounds of mourning, miracles exist,
belief in a knowing that faith will persist.

Watching for signs in the supernatural flow,
hope inclines with sacred gifts bestowed!

The awakened heart envisions light getting in,
mysterious breath of life, even closer than my skin…

17 thoughts on “Finding peace…

      • i did so very much. i feel you are the few who really understands this because we walk the same path everyday, loving and missing a part of ourselves. there is no place to hide and seek solace except in ourselves and that love ours sons gave us. they are such special souls, heaven is the only place they can find peace Ally.

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      • Yes, it helps me too, having someone who understands how I feel. It’s my Stevie’s birthday on Saturday and I am going to my eldest son who lives in another town to celebrate Stevie’s birthday with him. We plan to go out and to try not to be too somber. xoxoxoxo

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      • a happy birthday to him! i hope you and your eldest son have a lovely time together, remembering all the good birthdays. when it was Joshua’s birthday earlier this year, we cooked and made his favourite food and did what Joshua loved. my other kids miss him so much, my youngest boy Isaac says , he left too soon for me to make proud, my heart breaks even more. we will always love and must make that love as tangible to everyone even more so as time passes.

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      • Thanks Gina, we had a good weekend. We went out to a place that my Stevie would have loved and Bob Marley was playing in the back ground…one of his favorites. I am often sad for my eldest son because it was such a huge blow for him to loose his brother and not to have the opportunity to grow old together. 😥

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      • our kids are probably feeling the same, it is not only my grief that I have to deal with but also how i process theirs, we learn again everyday how to live without Joshua. I miss his love. and yes i feel so cheated sometimes of the man i know he would become. while it helps me to write this to you please i hope it doesn’t upset or unbalance you. the stages of grief can be so different and overlapping it confuses even logical me. be blessed Ally for the goodness of your heart and beautiful soul.

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      • It doesn’t upset or unbalance me in any way Gina. I am so grateful to have someone like you to share my truth with. Grief itself is a balancing act and at times ambushes us when we least expect it.
        There are 2 poems by John O’Donohue that come to mind when I think of our sons.
        Here is the link, it helped me. I hope it will help you Gina.
        https://www.poemhunter.com/poem/on-the-death-of-the-beloved/
        https://www.poemhunter.com/poem/for-grief/
        I don’t think we will ever get over the loss of our sons, we will just learn to live with it.
        Lots of love xoxoxoxoxo

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      • thank you for your loving words and reassurance. I love those poems, he really touches the core of our emotions. I get so upset when someone tells me or asks me we do have why I have not got over my loss, I feel like answering in anger but then they don’t understand this pain so I let it pass. we learn and we get stronger everyday, and if we do have off days, its ok to cry or eat chocolate or just go walk in the rain. i am glad words comfort you as much as they do me.

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      • Sadly not everyone understands the loss of a child, Gina, we never get over it. I’ve had some callous remarks in my time but I don’t think they know what they are doing or saying. Have a lovely weekend. xxxx

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